Have you ever wondered why some people seem to have an easy time losing weight? Or at least easier than you. They just set their goals and do it, while you are the one always struggling to either lose weight or to keep it off.
I recently read an interesting book by Mark Manson called "The subtle art of not giving a f*ck" and as much as it wasn't necessarily about nutrition but life in general, I have jotted some thoughts down that I thought related to eating and weight loss on a fundamental level.
In one of the chapters, the author, talked about wanting to climb a mountain. He wanted to get to the top and imagined how it would feel to reach the summit, but he wasn't really interested in the actual process of climbing.
Same goes for your weight loss. People who want to lose weight love to imagine themselves leaner but often times they don't want to, or they may not be willing to, put in the work that gets them there.
"You can be in love with the result, but unless you are in love with the process, you will fail".
Mark Manson "The art of not giving a fu*k".
I know this quote sounds pretty dark, and even if it's not entirely true all the time, loving the process surely makes it a hell of a lot easier.
That's what I try to do in my practice - help my clients find ways to enjoy the process of losing weight without overly stressing about the end goal (weight itself). That way they can enjoy the present moment and improve at the same time.
It's great to set goals, but sometimes when the end of the journey seems so far away, as soon as things get hard, we get demotivated (that the progress is not as quick as we wanted it to be) and throw in the towel.
It certainly is easier to give up than keep on trying.
When you focus on your daily practices of healthy eating and taking care of your body, you will find that the stress of reaching the goals is significantly reduced.
Focus on the practice, not on the performance.
So how can we enjoy the weight loss process?
- Celebrate even the smallest daily successes - we are not looking for perfection here, just any behavior that you did differently than in the past.
- Understand that weight loss is not easy and get over it, don't be a victim, the less you complain the better you will feel.
- Quit comparing yourself to other people, everybody's journey is different and the fact that you don't see them struggle doesn't mean they don't.
We all fight our own battles.
Comparing yourself to others rarely works as a motivator, it most often leads to feelings of failure and disappointment.
- Focus on the positives ONLY, minimize sabotaging thoughts and work on re-framing your thoughts to work for you instead of against you.
- Everybody makes mistakes, the sooner you realize that, the easier it's going to be for you to get back on the plan. Had a bad meal - ok, fine. Jump on the wagon next time you reach for food. Don't let yourself turn one bad meal into a day, or a week worth of junk.
- Understand that food does not solve problems, it only temporarily distracts us from the situation. Work on finding other non-food related sources of pleasures.
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